Friday, November 9, 2012

Well Hello! This is ME

Hello! My name is Ashleigh.. I am 26, a divorcee and now a step mom to three completely amazingly wonderful teenage girls!

My story begins.. Well when I was 18.. I married a man 14 years older then me.. Obviously not my best decision since 6 years later we separated and I filed for divorce.. It wasn't a good marriage and honestly its a long story and I'm not going to get too in-depth with it right now.. Lets just say at the end I had NO self esteem and was fighting depression in a big way. I weighed about 40 lbs more then when I started the relationship and was incredibly unhappy with myself and life in general. 

After about 2 or 3 weeks of drunken nights and blurry days I decided it was ME time! I had spent 8 years with a man who I gave my everything to and got very little in return. So now it is time for me to get me back! I made some decisions and changes and moved on! It didn't take long and I got back into contact with an old friend and we started spending time together.. and it took almost no time for us to fall in love. Before we got serious I told him so this is not okay, this won't happen, I need this, that sort of thing. He agreed and promised he would never treat me the way I had allowed myself to be treated before. We moved in together and we haven't been apart since. It has been 2 years this month. He is the man of my dreams and I can't imagine life without him.. 

In January I decided to needed to get healthy.. I've done a lot of research on natural and organic food and eating right. Which we as a family do as much as possible. So I decided I needed to take it to the next level and start working out. I like most of us had seen the P90X and Insanity infomercials. (Side not along with everything else in my life I have also dealt with chronic back pain since I was 21.) I knew there was NO WAY I could do Insanity..  So I went to the Beachbody website and wanted to see what other workouts they had.. My doctor had suggested that I should start with Yoga.. So I found Yoga Booty Ballet from Beachbody. Ordered it.. And got started.. (BIG step for me!) Soon I noticed I was feeling a bit better.. my back didn't hurt as bad every day.. I was sleeping better.. Everything! Soon I wanted a bit more of a challenge and moved on to Power 90. During this process a wonderful lady who is now my Beachbody Coach found me.. And we became friends instantly. She asked me if I would like to be a coach... I thought about it.. Talked to my man about it.. And decided I did want to give it a go! I could see how much it was helping me and I was more then happy to help others get the help they need! I have now lost around 45 lbs! I have done many of Beachbody's workout programs and have met and helped a lot of people! I haven't cured my back pain.. But I have gotten to the point where I have more good days then bad days and that is a big big big deal!

I am not officially a Stepmom but I live the life and we are going to be getting married at some point in the future. These girls are my life. They are 13 year old twin girls and a 15 year old girl. I do not have children on my own yet.. But we are planning on having our own once we get married. I am a "stay at home stepmom" at present time.. My man decided to go back to school last year.. And is now in his second semester of Culinary School. (Let me tell you it makes it hard to lose weight when he brings home all these amazing things he makes at school!) So I pick the girls up from school/practice when they are with us (week on week off 50/50 custody). I go to all of their games/concerts/plays. Keeps me super busy and I wouldn't change a minute of it! <3 

I decided to share my journey for a lot of reasons.. I'd like to meet new people.. I'd like to help people who are / have been / will be in the same place as I am.. I need a place to share my day to day frustrations / happiness / experiences with.. So welcome! Looking forward to getting to know you and for you to get to know me!

This is my amazing life!


  1. I think this is a really great history of "you." Thank you for sharing yourself with everyone this way! :)

  2. Thank you darling! It really felt good to put it all down in writing.. :)

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  4. I can definitely relate to the bad relationship and deciding to focus on you! Congrats on the 45 lbs you have lost so far! That is amazing!!

  5. It's amazing how the wrong man can tear our souls apart, huh. Thanks for sharing your story, Ash!

  6. Thank you ladies! I tried to reply to you before but apparently it didn't post lol... A bad relationship and the wrong man can totally change everything about our lives. I don't regret my marriage at all.. Because without what I've been through I wouldn't appreciate what I have now as much and I wouldn't be the same person I am now. :)